Why kids repeat bad behavior for attention and what parents can do
Child development experts suggest that children often repeat negative behaviors because they receive attention from parents, even if that attention is negative. The CDC advises that parents should focus on reinforcing positive behaviors rather than inadvertently rewarding defiance with scolding or lectures.
Why it matters
Understanding the psychology of attention-seeking behavior provides parents with more effective tools for discipline and emotional regulation.
A child keeps interrupting while a parent is on a phone call. The parent says, “Stop interrupting me.” The child does it again. This time the parent raises their voice. A few minutes later, another interruption. The parent sighs, explains, threatens and finally gives the child a long lecture about manners.It can feel as though nothing is working. But there is another way to look at the interaction: every time the behaviour happens, the child is getting something powerful from the parent- attention.That attention may be irritated, angry or negative, but for a young child, it can still be attention.
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