We live paycheck to paycheck and don't want wedding debt. So we're getting creative.

The author is getting married for the third time at 39. Courtesy of the author We knew from the start that we'd need to keep our wedding costs low. Our friends offered to officiate, DJ, photograph, and help coordinate the day. Their generosity is letting us create a meaningful celebration we can actually afford. At the age of 39, I already had two failed marriages under my belt and could never have expected to enter another engagement. Life held its own plan for me, bringing the man I was searching for all along when I least expected it. Roger had never married and never expected to be. We began our relationship straight out of my failing second marriage , and we were both at a loss about what our end goal would be — until we fell in love hard and never looked back.