Oliver’s mum was a narcissist and his dad avoidant. His own breakup forced him to address his dysfunctional childhood
This article explores how childhood trauma and dysfunctional family dynamics can shape adult relationships and mental health. It emphasizes the difficulty of recognizing these patterns, often referred to as 'covert dysfunction,' without external intervention.
Why it matters
Understanding the psychological roots of adult relationship patterns is essential for personal development and breaking cycles of intergenerational trauma.
‘While physical abuse leaves marks, covert dysfunction is absorbed as normal … It can remain unrecognised until someone else – a spouse, a friend or a therapist – points it out,’ writes relationship psychotherapist Nicholas Purcell. Composite: Getty Images/Guardian Design View image in fullscreen ‘While physical abuse leaves marks, covert dysfunction is absorbed as normal … It can remain unrecognised until someone else – a spouse, a friend or a therapist – points it out,’ writes relationship psychotherapist Nicholas Purcell. Composite: Getty Images/Guardian Design The modern mind Family Oliver’s mum was a narcissist and his dad avoidant. His own breakup forced him to address his dysfunctional childhood Nicholas Purcell Not every adult escapes their difficult childhood. And learning what a healthy relationship feels like takes time
The article is a psychological column focused on personal mental health and self-reflection, lacking political or ideological bias.
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