My retired husband wanted me to join his adventures. Saying no was the best thing for our marriage.

The author said she had to learn to set boundaries when her husband retired and she continued to work. Courtesy of Allison Snyder. Early in our relationship, I often put my new career aside to help my husband's business. When he retired, I thought it would be easier to finally put my career first. It took shifting my perspective to set boundaries, which was the best thing for both of us. When I met my husband , he owned an established backcountry ski and hospitality business. He loved the outdoors and exploration; they were woven into his day-to-day life. I, on the other hand, was just beginning to reinvent my career , shifting from lawyering to freelance writing and consulting. During our first five years together, I often set aside my own ambitions to help his business.