My partner and I always thought we agreed on money. Then, we moved in together.

My partner and I agree on a lot when it comes to finances, but we don't always want to spend our money on the same things. Santiago Barraza Lopez When my partner and I started dating, we had similar incomes and opinions on how to split expenses . Once we moved in together, though, we realized we wanted our money to go toward different things. We came up with a plan that helped us, and accepted that sometimes, we'd just have to compromise. I was born and raised in Mexico, but I spent most of my financially independent adult life in New York and London. Living abroad made me second-guess a lot of the norms related to money and dating that I'd long internalized — for instance, the expectation that in a heterosexual relationship, men should just pay for everything.