Dating Files: A 58-year-old aromantic looking for community on the Kāpiti Coast
A 58-year-old aromantic individual shares their experiences with dating and seeking community on the Kāpiti Coast. The article explores the challenges of finding non-romantic connections in a culture centered on traditional dating.
Why it matters
It highlights the growing visibility of aromantic identities and the social challenges faced by those seeking platonic community over romantic partnership.
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Mostly I’m finding: People who want a lover on the side
My last serious relationship was: fifteen years ago. We mutually became less interested in the sexual and romantic aspects, and have continued the friendship aspects. Perfect.
The worst date I ever had: 1992. Trying to explain to a guy from a party that just because I was super keen on spending the wee hours prowling round the city and jumping the fence to go skinny dipping in the Centennial pools together didn’t mean I was interested in romance or sex with him. He was disappointed and left, I felt under-appreciated.
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